Emotions are a valuable and a key trait for humans. Emotions, they are an integral part of the system, a system that helps us capitalize on opportunities and protect ourselves from threats.
How many times do we see emotions as negative? Let us say someone has an emotional outburst? Or someone has a heated discussion. Often these are rants are interpreted as unprofessional, or disrespectful. True?
There is a reason for it. We are powered by emotions and emotional energy. Partners, peers and coworkers that do not have emotions or passion? They do not exist. . . these people simply are people afraid to express themselves in that situation.
One thing to remember. Any heated discussion will often find one side not listening. They decode what you said as a different sentence than what you just said. They misinterpret the words. This can be career changing and make a simple conversation turn ugly.
Example? A heated discussion, where someone is very upset at another. They throw an insult. That someone says “F you” to another. Meaning they just said only that. They did not say fu** you, they just said “f you”. Often that will be remembered as the four letter word, even though you never said a four (4) letter word. In heated discussions, make sure you repeat any sentences that are open for interpretation. If you abbreviate a word, make sure you define what abbreviation. It’s probably a good idea never to say words that are so easily open to different meanings.
If you are going to say something like “f you”, you must define what “f you” means. Especially anything like “F you”. Make sure you repeat and emphasize that you only said “F you”, and that means “f you”, not “fu** you”. And “f you” can mean anything you want it to be! Make sure you tell the other person it means “freak you” for example. Do not let that type of narrative be open for interpretation. You will find yourself regretting that you did not make your self clear in that discussion.
Copyright 2024, Rod Deluhery
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